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It was beautiful out today. I slept late - recovering from being up… - a world of possibility
It was beautiful out today.

I slept late - recovering from being up for almost 24 hours yesterday.

My mind wandered so much between yesterday morning (technically 2 mornings ago) and now. I'm not quite sure what I think or how I feel about many things.

I finally opened an e-mail from my father. It was something I had asked him to send me. It is about creating a vision statement for your life. I want(ed) to try it while I was home last week but never got the chance.

I'm going to start writing it out tomorrow once I've gone through some of my other things on the "to do" list.

So much in my mind lately I can't myself comprehend.

I look forward to seeing how things change - or don't change.

For anyone interested, this is the attachment in it's entirety. Besides the "God" and "Jesus" references - for I'm not a very religious person - I have some things I want to experiment with, or maybe there's abetter way to put it, but currently I can't get anything out, I need sleep. :)

This is long long long


While a mission statement is centered on the process of what you need to be doing, a vision statement is the end result of what you will have done. It is a picture of how the landscape will look after you’ve been through it. It is your “ideal.”
Your vision statement is the force that will sustain you when your mission statement seems too heavy to endure, enforce or engage. All significant changes and inventions began with a vision first.
It was the vision of Christopher Columbus returning to Spain with ships full of spices, converts and gold that led Queen Isabella to grant him the money for the journey. She surely would not have granted him the funds if he had approached her with “I need three ships, lots of men, lots of money, lots of time and maybe I’ll get back to you.” This was actually the reality of the situation, yet Columbus sold her on the vision first. The details became almost insignificant.
The founding fathers that met in Philadelphia envisioned “a more perfect union based on life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” They did not write down “We are going to lose our land, our lives, our fortunes, and everything we’ve worked for while trudging through mud, enduring freezing cold, and dying from lead bullets.” This was the reality of what happened to many of them. Yet it was the vision of a free land, shimmering in the not too distant future, which kept them loading their muskets and pushing their mules and eating hard tack and sipping soup.
The proverb “Where there is no vision, the people perish” emphasizes the need we have to be able to envision the future. Our very existence depends on it.
Yet most of us are still caught up in the past. Few of us can see beyond the present. Each of us must see into the future, and thus help create it, if we are to successfully accomplish our mission.
Physicists are now aware of subatomic particles that hover in and around everything that exists. One interesting characteristic of these particles is that they seem to take on the properties or expectations of the scientists studying them. This has led to the speculation that these particles may be the creative building blocks of the universe. All mass is surrounded by hovering possibilities waiting only to be spoken to in order to become. God said, “Light be, and Light was.”
If these particles surround us all, then each of us is currently and constantly creating the future by what we say and think whether or not we are aware of doing so.
It is imperative then that we get clear about what we are creating and compare it to what we intend to create. The only way to do that is to:
a. Look at what we’ve consciously or subconsciously created up till now and then
b. Write down a detailed description of what we really want.

The key elements of a compelling vision statement are these:


Don’t trust your memory to help you remember it. Most of us can’t even remember where we left our car keys, much less what the land of milk and honey looked like when we were in a high state of creativity. Keep it where you can refer to it daily.


The mind only thinks in “now.” It does not know any other tense. The mind duplicates exactly what we say or think. If you say “I will try to do this tomorrow” it will replicate the state of “trying to do something,” which is, in actuality, not having done it, and putting it on the shelf of “tomorrow”— which never comes.


Be sure you’ve covered weekend activities as well as weekday tasks. Anything you forget or neglect to color in will remain “uncolored in.”


The mind thinks in pictures. Colors, fragrances and sounds help its recall. It anchors events or images with multiple details. Give your mind the details it needs to make this vision seem very real. Some people do “mind maps” which have pictures resembling the house or car or feeling they want to create.
Jesus emphasized the importance of being specific in our requests. The man who got a stone instead of a fish from his father probably said, “Oh, I don’t care. Just give me anything.”
I often visualize heaven as being like a catalog fulfillment center, full of angels reading requests. “This one reads ‘I want to be happy in the future,’ says Gabriel. “What exactly does that mean?” asks Michael. “I don’t know. What should I do with it?” asks Gabriel. “Put it in the ‘hold’ file, with all the rest. Someday maybe these humans will learn to be specific,” sighs Michael, as he marks yet another request “incomplete.”
In the previous chapter I spoke about Gedalia, the Ambassador of Romance who really wants to be the Pied Piper of Music for Children, who refined his mission and his slogan during one of my workshops. His mission statement read:

My Mission is to enliven, encourage and reinspire the love of music for children in public schools.

His Vision statement looked something like this:

I am singing three nights a week and spending the rest of my time working in the public schools. Once a month 1 organize and attend school assemblies, which feature my work and that of other musicians. As a result of the work that I have done, children in North County have attended three free concerts this year, have increased enrollment in band participation by 30 percent, and have personally met and talked with singers and musicians who are enthusiastic about their work. There is a resurgence of the sales of folk music in local music stores, and two corporate sponsors now provide scholarships for music classes for the underprivileged. I have received sponsorship for my work through private funding, and am being approached about taking the model of what 1 do statewide.

Gedalia’s mission and vision statement were so clear and compelling that he attracted three volunteers to help him by the end of the seminar. Once you get clear about what you want, you will begin to attract help from multiple sources.
Leadership trainer and author Dave Cowan recently told me a fascinating story about gravitational pull. Apparently most of the fuel that is used by spaceships traveling to the moon is consumed in just getting them beyond earth’s gravity. After they have done so, NASA scientists count on lunar gravity to pull the spaceship toward the moon. Similarly, it is “escape velocity” that requires most of the energy, moving us away from our former way of life. A compelling vision must be so clear and so powerful that its very magnetism and gravitational forces will literally pull you toward it.
Authors Michael Hammer and James Champy state in their book Reengineering the Corporation that the only companies that seem to successfully negotiate the arduous process of change are those that have created and communicated a very clear vision of the future, aided by statistics and projections of what would happen if the company didn’t change.
The Bible itself begins with a compelling vision of the Garden of Eden. It ends with the hope and possibility of our having heaven once again on earth, providing we make the necessary changes. (It also includes a fiery description of what could happen if we don’t change.)
Project where you will be in
• Three years,
• Five years,
• Ten years,
• Twenty years
—If you merely maintain the status quo.
If you don’t like what you see, what is your preferred future? What is your ideal?

Realize Your Point of Power

Author Robert Fritz teaches that the very moment you realize you are unhappy or frustrated with a situation is your “point of power,” for now you have a clear picture of how you don’t want things to be. Imagine the exact opposite of the frustrating situation, and there you have the makings of your vision.
When I began working in the advertising industry, it quickly became apparent to me that some clients tended to take advantage of our relationship, asking for free proposals full of creative ideas that they would then take and execute on their own, or using the ad agency as a scapegoat to blame when their poorly strategized marketing plans or products failed. I actually had one client lambaste me over the phone because the sales of his sofas dropped, despite the fact that we were not advertising sofas—at his request. Every job and industry has its frustrations, but I determined early on not to be in or tolerate any relationships with clients which I felt to be abusive.
After my unhappy experience in advertising, I wrote the following as my vision statement: “I have clients who delight in and cherish me, and who properly value my creative talents and efforts. We are mutually engaged in serving others. My clients come exclusively through referrals, allowing me to be free to devote my energies to creating. They are doing work or offering products that I respect. They pay me well and on time. I have long-term relationships with the people I serve, and they are as interested in my well-being as they are their own.” I then “anchored” it by adding—”It is Monday morning, 10 A.M. I am wearing comfortable clothes, having returned last week from a major consulting job. I sit down in my home office and catch up on work from the week before. For lunch I walk down to the park for Chinese food. When the phone rings it is another referral. I set up an appointment for the following week. When I open the mail it is filled with checks.”
When I shared this vision with an associate at a local advertising federation meeting, she scoffed, “Dream on, Jones. You might as well not be in business.” I disagreed however, and found another associate who supported me in my vision. He even mused, as we were walking along the beach, “See all those seagulls swarming around that fishing boat? They are like your future clients. They’re going to be chasing you!” I appreciated and believed his positive prophecy, and would recall it on those days when not even sparrows seemed to be limping around my car.
Once I wrote out that vision statement for my work, things definitely started changing. I began to attract clients with similar values and tastes as my own. When I combined the vision statement with my mission statement (which was “To recognize, promote, and inspire divine excellence”) I had a yardstick to use in measuring my activities and determining daily responses to situations that developed.

Get Into Conscious Creating

Jesus told us to be specific in our requests, and urged us to “fear not, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.” One philosopher states that the purpose of our life on earth is to learn that our thoughts have power. William James wrote that the greatest discovery of this century is that by changing our thoughts, we can change our lives. We are constantly thinking and every thought is filled with creative power. We are constantly creating, but most of it is done unconsciously. The purpose of a vision statement is to get us into conscious creating.
In the delightful movie Princess Cariboo, a young woman in England imagines herself to be a princess from a distant island country. She goes so far as to create her own language, her own flag, her own costumes, and her own heritage. Her mannerisms, her stance, her gracious and refined hand movements speak truly of a noble birth. She is so convinced that she is this princess that the entire town begins to believe her—with hilarious and revealing results. At one point she has all of London’s royalty learning her exotic native dance, following her around the room in a conga line, mimicking her rolling and swaying movements. Bankers begin to explore using her as an ambassador to help raise money to invest in the island. A royal duke proposes to her—believing he can expand his territories, and upgrade his personal image, as well. The women begin to dress like her—enchanted that they have been visited by royalty.

The entire fantasy comes tumbling down when a suspicious reporter uncovers the fact that the country the princess claims to come from does not exist, and rather than her being of noble, foreign birth, she is a common, wayward girl from London with no family at all.
When she is interviewed by the reporter, the princess explains, “But you see, when I thought about the princess, I really became her.” Ultimately, the entire community is transformed, recognizing that for some reason, they needed her to be a princess to make them feel better about themselves. The reporter falls in love with her, and they sail off to America—the land where everybody seems to have, and live, their dreams.

Create a Vision for Your Relationships

A compelling vision statement can also help guide us to effecting change in the most difficult and challenging arena of relationships. While we cannot control or dictate the behavior of others, a vision statement about how we wish to conduct ourselves, and the “tone of being” that we desire to maintain, will definitely become a sifting and filtering device, a necessary protective boundary, and a magnet for others.
Bebe had been involved in an unhappy relationship. She finally took the time to write out in her journal exactly what her vision of the ideal marriage would be. For her it involved having a husband who was supportive of her career, who loved to cook and do housework, someone who had his own career, and enjoyed staying at home, fixing or building things. Being a firm believer in the power of the written word, she also wrote her vision statement out in her Day Timer and referred to it regularly:

It is Friday afternoon, 5:30 P.M. My husband picks me up from the airport with champagne on ice. We drive to our newly constructed home, and have dinner, which he has lovingly prepared. After dinner we walk down the two steps to our sunken living room, and sit in front of the fire, have wine, and talk about our day.

After reading her vision statement, I ignorantly suggested that maybe she lower her sights a little bit, as: a) she traveled all the time, and thus had little opportunity to meet “a homebody,” and b) I’d never even heard of a man as romantic and domestic as that. Undaunted, she kept to this statement and took it out to read it over every few weeks or so. Three years passed. Then one Christmas eve she called me and said, “I’ve met the man in my vision.”
Ed is not only a gourmet cook but owns his own construction firm and had traveled so much in his former career that he hates to leave town. He is also a former boxer and current cycling champion. Happily single for the past twelve years, he is the father of her daughter’s best friend, and actually lived around the block from Bebe, They did not meet until my friend wrote down her vision statement, and shared it with someone else—in this case, her daughter. Bebe and Ed have now been married for ten years and have built a new house with “two steps down into the sunken living room.” He not only picks her up at the airport with champagne on ice, but brings her tea on a breakfast tray every morning. Bebe claims that her marriage is even better than she imagined. The point is, she did imagine it, the beginnings of it, and wrote it down.
Two women were having a discussion, one of which was happily married and the other wasn’t. The unhappily married one shared, “I can’t even imagine such a happy life,” to which her friend gently but firmly replied, “Perhaps that is why you don’t have one.”
Jill, a friend and colleague of mine, was married to an apathetic, beer-guzzling, chronically unemployed husband. After several months of exchanging pleasantries and surface conversation, she finally admitted to me that she was unhappy, but had uncertain feelings about leaving Al, as he was the father of her two very young children. One Sunday I invited her to accompany me to look at a pony I was contemplating buying for my stable.
As we arrived a family of four also drove up. The husband and wife were dressed for church, and their little five-year-old girl and seven-year-old boy were wearing jeans, boots, and cowboy hats. As his wife helped their son get on a pony, the man confided to us that his wife used to raise horses, and since they had been re-stationed at the nearby military base they had not had a chance to even be around horses. “After we get a pony for the kids,” he said, “she doesn’t know it but I’m going to buy her a horse, too. This way she and the kids can ride together while I’m gone. I couldn’t wait to get up this morning to come out here! I was more excited than the kids!”
They did, indeed, purchase the pony, and as he was writing out the check the man smiled to us and said, “You should see my wife on a horse. I think she was born on one!”
As we were driving off Jill said wistfully, “I want a family life like that. My husband sits around on Sunday watching TV all day. We never do anything together like go to church, the park, the movies.”
Seeing an opportunity for a new vision statement for my friend, I whipped out a pen and paper and said, “Let’s write it down.”
So over lunch she constructed a new vision for her family life, one that read:

I have a husband who can’t wait to get up to do things with me and the kids. He loves to plan surprises for me, and is constantly thinking of ways to make our life happier and more fulfilled. We are doing things together as a family. He is proud of my talents, and me and verbally praises me in front of other people.

When she shared this vision with her husband, he mocked her and stomped out of the room, slamming the door as he left. Within two weeks she moved out—recognizing that she needed space in order to make her vision come true. When I asked her if she was afraid, or was getting lonely without Albert, she said, “When I do I just get out the picture of him sitting on the couch drinking beer, and I reread my vision statement, and I know I’m doing the right thing.”
Jill cannot change her husband. But she can change her standards of acceptance. And she alone, with God, is responsible for setting the tone in her life.
Not to have your own vision is to live somebody else’s. When we were discussing how Jill got into her mess, she wondered, “Why would I allow myself to pay all the bills, do all the housework, even carry in the fifty-lb. bag of dog food, while he simply sat on the couch and drank beer?” She paused for a moment, and then burst into a laughter of recognition. “I was living his vision!” she exclaimed, shaking her head. “I didn’t have a vision of my own.” Ideally, both people in a relationship will have the same vision—and will work toward it with an equal amount of commitment and dedication.
Ironically enough, Jill’s move prompted major changes in Al. He is now attending AA meetings, going to church, and spending every free moment taking the boys fishing or to the park. He also got a new job. Last week he even asked her what her dreams were, and agreed to write down his, as well. She may or may not go back to him—but her vision is close to coming true—ninety days later!

A Vision Statement Is a Recruiting Tool

Jesus, one of the greatest recruiters of all time, gave very clear vision statements about what would happen to people who worked with him. “Drink my words, you will never be thirsty again.” “Abide in me, and you will be like a living vine—always bearing fruit.” “If anyone comes to me, he will be born again—and will be a new creation.” He also spared no words about the challenges that would confront them.
Vision statements like these became his recruiting tools. People who wanted the same pictures for their own lives came to serve him.
The president of one of the largest manufacturing companies in the world is adamant about recruiting people who have proven a commitment to his company’s mission, which is “To Serve God in All We Do.” He therefore recruits heavily through pastors around the world—people who know young men and women who have already given their lives to God. Michael’s reasoning is this: “I can always teach people the business. But we cannot afford to spend our time trying to teach people values.”
Having a clearly articulated vision and mission statement will be a terrific magnet and filtering device. It is possible to persuade other people to see the wisdom in your vision, as well.
In the book How to Argue and Win Every Time, author and trial lawyer Gerry Spence writes that in gaining a victory for one of his clients, he told the jury, “After your deliberations, I want all of us to walk out of this courtroom as free people. I want to walk out as a free person. I want you to walk out as a free person. And I want my client to walk out as a free person, knowing justice has been done.” He relates that after the jury did indeed free his client, one of the jurors came up to him and said, “Thank you for telling us so directly what you wanted. That was what we all wanted, too, and your words made it all come together for us.” Asking them to find his client not guilty would not have been nearly as powerful as creating in their minds a picture of his client walking out of the courtroom as a free man. He gave them a vision they couldn’t refuse. Spence exalts “the power of the honest who tell us who they are and what they want!”
“Imagination is everything,” wrote Albert Einstein. When you are writing out your vision statement, think about a world where, “With God, anything is possible.” Color outside the lines. Look at people who are having, being, doing, creating what you want to create as role models

Questions for Individuals
1. Who is living the life you most envy?
2. Describe what you think it is like.
3. Who is doing the kind of work you most wish three years from now.
4. Describe what their work life must be like.
5. If you only had six healthy months left to live, what would they look like?
6. What do you want more of:
 in your relationships
 in your work
7. What do you want less of:
 in your relationships
 in your work
8. Describe in detail your ideal work setting.
9. Describe in detail your ideal work day.
10. Describe in detail your ideal co-workers.
11. If money were no object, what would you be doing with your life?
12. What would you do if you were ten times bolder?
 In your primary love relationship?
 In your work setting?
 In your community?
 In your family?
 In your place of worship?
13. Imagine that it is Monday morning, 9 A.M., three years from now.
 Where are you?
 What are you doing?
 Who are you seeing?
 What are you wearing?
 Who are you going to see?
 Where are you going for lunch?
14. It is now noon, same day.
 Where are you?
 What are you doing?
 Who are you seeing?
 What are you wearing?
 Who are you going to see?
 Where are you going for lunch?
15. It is now Saturday, 6 P.M.
 Where are you?
 What are you doing?
 Who are you seeing?
 What are you wearing?
16. You are now a very old person, walking with a school child who asks you, “What are you most proud of about your life?”
17. You are about to die. What did you accomplish before you left?
18. As a result of your having lived, three things have changed or shifted in the world. What are they?
19. Now write out your vision statement, incorporating your responses from all of the questions above.

Questions for Companies, Groups or Associations (using “group” as the common entity)
1. What do you, as a group, want more of?
2. What do you, as a group, want less of?
3. Describe the kinds of relationships you wish to have with:
 Your customers
 Your suppliers
 Your shareholders or investors
 Your competitors
 Your community
 Your peers
 Your employees
4. The newspaper honors you as “Company of the Year.” In the article they highlight your:
5. Your product or service is meeting what critical need in the:
 community
 marketplace
 region
 world
6. Your company has changed the history of: (check any that apply to your vision)
 the community
 the marketplace
 the region
 the world
 other _________
7. It has done this by:
8. Your company or group has been called “A Light on a Hill.” This is because:
9. Now write out your vision statement, including activities, states of being, and desired accomplishments.

I hope everyone is well

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From: brave_heart Date: December 6th, 2002 08:56 am (UTC) (Link)
The attachment didn't come through for me.
moowazz From: moowazz Date: December 6th, 2002 10:31 am (UTC) (Link)
whoops, lol

it's fixed now

try again

I hope you are well

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